CHARLESTON, SC.

My mom, sister and I decided to (finally) take a girls weekend together this summer, and with only a few days to spare, we decided on a semi-local city that is perfect for a ladies trip: Charleston! Home to many a bachelorette party, an amazing food scene and historic, charming neighborhoods, we were on the go constantly, and we still didn’t see and do everything the city has to offer. There are tons of awesome Charleston guides out there from Jess Kirby, Camille Styles and Conde Nast Traveler to scan if you’re planning your trip (I did!), but here’s what we decided to do during our visit:

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WHERE WE STAYED

We decided to stay at what I would consider one of the most popular hotels in Charleston, The Dewberry. It’s vibe is quintessential Charleston with a centralized location and great in-hotel restaurants and bars. Seriously, you guys.. their signature scent—filling the entire building from the second you walk in— is to die for and The Citrus Club cocktail lounge on the top floor of the hotel has the highest rooftop bar in the city. (You must try their French 75!)

WHAT WE ATE

There are.. SO MANY.. restaurants in Charleston, and all with amazing menus and accolades. It’s really about choosing places that suite your preference, or else you’d be here for weeks eating and drinking! For brunch, we went to a Charleston classic, Miller All Day, and an even more classic option: the Sunday Gospel Brunch at Hall’s Steakhouse. I really enjoyed our daytime stops: Leon’s Oyster Bar, Minero, and Darling Oyster Bar. We also chose some more casual dinner options: Melfi’s and Coast.

While I want to stray away from listing places I didn’t actually visit, there were a ton of places that other travel guides and publications said were some of the top restaurants in the city that we didn’t have time to visit, such as Husk, Le Farfalle, Chez Nous, The Ordinary, Zero Restaurant, Fig and The Establishment to name a few...

WHAT WE DID

Honestly, most of our time was food and drink hopping. Isn’t that the best way to experience a city, after all? But we did make time for some must-do activities: strolling Rainbow Road and South of Broad, a candle-making class at Candlefish, and window shopping down King Street. I cannot wait to visit again to eat, drink and see all the things we didn’t have time for this time around!

THE CATSKILLS, NY.

The Catskills are a place I've wanted to visit for a while, thanks to ultra-chic @andnorth and @thisoldhudson, so when Mike and I decided that we wanted to take an off-the-grid cabin getaway, I knew just where we'd end up. What's so great about this expansive area of New York is that it includes many different towns over a large geographic space, so you have options as to what type of visit you'd like to have. While I made an 'Upstate New York' map on Google that included pins hours apart (yes, that's how I plan my travels...), we decided that a remote destination is what we were looking for, with a pit stop in Hudson along the way.

WHERE WE STAYED

Located in the town of Bloomville, Table on Ten is a bed and breakfast and restaurant specializing in brunch and wood-oven pizzas. We stayed in their cabin, which was ten minutes away from the main bnb in South Kortright. We had private acres of land to ourselves, complete with a fire pit, picnic table and wild berries. There are tons of amazing Airbnbs for this area, so I recommend scanning all of the options to find the one you like best. If you’re looking for something slightly less remote, hotels that I discovered in my searches were The Graham and Co., Roundhouse, WM Farmer and Sons, and The Villas at Saugerties. Maybe next time!

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WHAT WE DID

Staying in the country meant we did a lot of relaxing; playing cards, reading, napping. It was quite the change of pace. Outside of that, we spent our mornings hiking. We did the Bramley Mountain loop and the Mine Kills Falls trail. Both were fairly short (three miles or so great for unseasoned hikers like us) and had wonderful views. I really enjoyed the Mine Kill Falls trail — there were tons of streams, foot bridges and other things to explore that kept the hike exciting. Other hikes on my list that we didn’t complete (so don’t take my word for it!) were Breakneck Ridge and Kaaterskill Falls. In the evenings, we went out to dinner. I highly (highly) recommend Brushland Eating House and, of course, Table on Ten for a casual pizza dinner straight from their pizza oven.

HUDSON

Our day in Hudson was the time we set aside to hop around and explore-- there is no shortage of shopping and eating to be done here! We had lunch at Le Perche, beers at the Spotty Dog (books and bar!!!), picked up food at Talbot & Arding and Olde Hudson and browsed around the cutest shops like Homemade Hudson, Minna and Hawkins NY. I cannot wait to visit again -- there’s so much more to Hudson that we didn’t see. I can imagine that fall is a beautiful time to go, just as summer was…

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APRIL 2019.

I mentioned at the end of last month how I expected April to be slow, and I’ll admit, it was! Most of our weekends felt long, which is up there as one of the best feelings ever, along with sleeping with new sheets, which we also happened to buy this month! Anyway, I’m grateful for the nights of being able to cook a meal, watch tv and curl into bed before 9:30, and for weekends where we had no alarms set and no where to be.

In May, I’m looking forward to riding the creative wave that I’m on. (Gotta take those bursts of inspiration when they come.) I’m also looking forward to a little getaway to Portland, Maine. It’s been since March that I’ve travelled, and while I’ve loved the homebody moments, I am itching to explore! Only a couple more weeks, and I’m not wishing any of it by. Until next month…


APRIL FAVORITES

Fashion | I’m really into the idea of blazers as a jacket in spring, and this cotton linen version from Everlane is the perfect mix of oversized, yet still flattering. I am also itching to wear this denim jumpsuit, come on summer weather!

Food | One Friday night, we stayed in and created a shrimp piccata dish, over pasta and with spinach. I have to say, it was one of my best! Otherwise, we indulged in a feast over at Pabu in Downtown Crossing. Sushi, wagu beef, sake and desserts — it’s one of those meals that you happen to have every once in a while. Everything was delicious!

Book | It’s hard to choose this month. I read three books in April and all of them were good, just not The Silent Patient good, you know what I mean? If you’re looking for an ‘edge of your seat’ thriller, I suggest No Exit. If you’re interested in the Gone Girl-esque psycho thriller, I’d say The Last Mrs. Parrish.

Link | This article on rules for life. . . Please read this. And take it to heart. Life is too short, and my takeaways from this is: to be nice, to order that extra dish at a restaurant, and to always make extra dinner rolls (obviously).

Media | While I wasn’t totally in love with new music this month per se, Beyonce’s Homecoming debuted, and man, that show got me. Beyonce fan or not… you are, right?!… she just kills it. Singing, dancing and just pure entertainment and girl power. A highly recommend from me!


MAY AGENDA

Have a movie night watching Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile when it airs this Friday

Take a long weekend up to Portland, Maine

Cook this recipe for Garlic Basil Chicken with Tomato Butter for Sunday Dinner

Go up to Lake Winnipesaukee for the first time this season

Read at least two books, including The Great Alone and The Woman in the Window

A NOTE ON MINIMALISM, PART TWO.

I posted here that recently my minimalist journey has started to look a little differently than it had when I first started over a year and a half ago. Then, I wanted to be a minimal as possible – not shopping or indulging, no spending or acquiring anything tangible. It worked for a while. The initial ‘shock to the system’ and declutter was extremely beneficial. It felt like a weight was lifted, in my apartment, in my thoughts and in my bank account.

But as the weeks passed, things started to change. I didn’t notice it at first, but looking back retrospectively, I began to get harder and harder on myself. I’m a type-A Virgo… once I commit to something, this is usually how I handle it… And just like that, something that started as a positive change in my life, began to make me feel bad! I had moments of guilt when I did buy something for myself (which I even still would consider thoroughly as opposed to impulsively buying) and even felt moments of deprivation. (“XYZ is something I think I could really use/need, but I can’t buy things!”) It all became a little tiresome and pretty draining. It felt like the exact opposite of how living minimally is supposed to make you feel.

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The past two months have been a little different. I’m allowing myself grace. With this, among other things. (Remember my type-A personality, Virgo-born tendencies.) I’m hard on myself for everything. Achieving my version of perfection is really the only way I feel satisfied. But I’m no longer allowing something that is supposed to provide freedom and genuine happiness to have the opposite effect on me. So what is the solution? I think it’s shaping up to look like a deeper dive into conscious consumption and intentional living, and what that looks like for me.

And I’m starting with this:

If I have thought consciously about a purchase (kept it on my wish list and have considered it over time), I have the means to afford it, and use those means to support local, ethical and/or women-owned businesses that I believe in, then I am allowing those things to come into my life and, as Marie Kondo would say, spark joy. It’s what feels right, what makes me feel good and happy. And that’s what this whole minimalism thing is about anyway.

 

What does minimalism look like for you?

CATCHING SOME ZZZ's.

Generally speaking, it’s been a strange experience to come into what I can only describe as my ‘true’ adult years… (Isn’t it funny when you think you’re all grown up at age 21..23..25?!) I feel like one of the biggest things I’ve learned in my late 20’s is how to be introspective, and to give myself the time and resources that I need to really feel happy. I don’t know, sometimes it’s easy to think that your struggles, whatever they may be, are just something you have to live with… and as a ‘true’ adult, I have come to terms with the falsity of that.

One of the things I have struggled with for years is sleep… I’m the person that would go to bed at 9:00 to get a “good night’s rest” because I knew I’d be up from 2 or 3am through the morning; my mind reeling with lists and to-do’s, hypothetical scenarios and anxieties. It’s something that I’ve accepted to be true for a very long time. But recently, as it became more effective on my daytime mood and energy levels, I decided to invest in myself, to make changes to foster positive habits that have very truly changed my day-to-day life. Here’s what I’ve invested in to experience better sleep:

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I stocked up on the most comfortable sleepwear I could find. I use the term sleepwear lightly: I usually like to sleep in cotton (not athletic) sports bras – too much fabric, like wearing an oversized tee shirt, is just too much for me. When I came across ARQ tops, I knew that they would be the most comfortable thing my money could buy, so I ordered multiples.... They have proven to be the most amazing – made of organic stretch cotton, so soft, non-restricting and perfect in their simplicity. I adore the wide strap version.

I took steps to block out sound and light. I’m naturally a light sleeper to begin with, so falling asleep/ tossing in the middle of the night has always been super disruptive for me because any little sound or light had the power to keep me awake. So, I started using this heavy duty sleep mask. The true darkness that comes with a sleep mask has helped me in getting the deep sleep that we all need, and (bonus) it’s one of the cutest sleep looks… just ask my boyfriend. :)

I created my perfect nighttime routine. I now swear by the power of the nighttime routine… if I happen to miss it one night, I notice my sleep being completely out of wack. Everyone’s routine to relax and get prepared for sleep may be different, but here’s what works for me: About 45 minutes before heading into bed, I have a cup of decaffeinated tea with Beam CBD oil. This stuff has been a GAME CHANGER. I was skeptical before I tried it, but I am so glad that I did. Even more than helping me sleep soundly, I notice that if I do wake up in the middle of the night, it is so much easier to fall right back asleep, instead of laying awake with a million thoughts in my head. On an ideal night, I get into bed about 30 minutes before I actually want to sleep and read until my eyes are naturally closing, whether that be in two minutes or 20. Letting my body feel tired naturally has been a new and welcome change on my body. After that, I slip on my mask and it’s a wrap.

If you have any sleep tips and tricks, let me know in the comments!